Friday, September 14, 2007

Patience is a Virtue

I personally believe that it takes a lot of personal growth for a person to have enough patience. In my own understanding, patience is a virtue and it requires a lot of waiting. I decided to search online for a relevant topic about patience. One definition that caught my attention was this: Patience is the ability to endure waiting, delay, or provocation without becoming annoyed or upset, or to persevere calmly when faced with difficulties. Impatience is an opposite of patience. I also found a comprehensive study on patience.

Here it is:

What is patience?
Patience is the ability to:
  • Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration.
  • Let go of your need for immediate gratification.
  • Display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are slower than you in developing maturity, emotional freedom, and coping abilities.
  • Accept your human frailty in the pursuit of personal, physical, emotional, and spiritual growth. Accept the set backs and reversals inevitable in your quest for personal growth.
  • Believe in the concepts of permanence and commitment. Be calm and considerate as you handle the growth issues in your committed relationships in marriage, family, career, community, or church.
  • Hang on to a relationship when trouble arises that may take some time to resolve.
  • Feel peace, contentment, and satisfaction that you are on the path to recovery and personal growth.
  • Temper your enthusiasm, energy, exuberance, and excitement after you have experienced a renewal of spirit, received revelations or insights.
  • Accept the non-enthusiastic reception of others to share in your ``new found truths.'' Accept that there is no need to rush yourself or others in facing the challenges of emotional growth.
  • See that overnight reformations are rarely long lasting; gradual change and growth have a greater durability.
  • Feel relaxed, calm, and placid as you face your daily schedule and the challenges it presents.
  • Believe that your day to day efforts, sacrifices, and changes are building a new edifice of a whole person with healthy self-esteem.
  • Feel satisfied with the use of the Tools for Coping tools in a gradual reshaping, rebuilding, and remodeling of yourself into a confident, secure, trusting, loving person dealing in healthy communication, and self-actualization.
What are some negative consequences of impatience?
By being impatient you can:
  • Run the risk of always being dissatisfied, upset, and angry at yourself for your slow pace of growth and change.
  • Easily lose your control and fire off outbursts of anger, temper, and blame on those who are slow to change and grow.
  • Become a member of the ``throw away'' generation, discarding relationships, people, jobs, and school whenever things are not working out as quickly as you want them to.
  • Waste energy worrying about how slow things are changing instead of directing that energy toward the changes you desire.
  • Withdraw prematurely from a helping situation because you are not seeing an immediate pay off for your efforts.
  • Turn off the others in your life who want to support you, but whom you offend by accusing them (when change is slow) of ``not helping you enough.''
  • Sacrifice friendships and relationships prematurely because the other person is not changing as quickly or as thoroughly as you desire.
  • Ignore all of the positive gains you and others have made on the road to recovery and growth, only concentrating on what has not yet been accomplished.
  • Become pessimistic about life, seeing only the ``half empty cup'' rather than the ``half filled cup.''
  • Be in such a hurry that you neglect to count your blessings and see how far you have come.
  • Burn yourself out in the pursuit of your goals.
  • Lose the ability to reward or reinforce any level of success or attainment, discouraging yourself and others in the pursuit of recovery and growth.
  • Lose the ability to take a large goal and break it down into manageable increments.
  • Become overwhelmed by the large tasks ahead of you and lose the hope and motivation to keep on trying.

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